Question: Why do women assume that a guy is cheating or not interested in her if and when the compliments stop coming?
Most men are initially attracted to women visually, but it's her personality that keeps us interested and her actions that make us want to stay...(or leave).
Once we are settled in "a relationship" with a woman, we focus our some of our energies on more meaningful aspects of our lives. Why can't some women understand that if he isn't as romantic and/or attentive or if he happens to look at another female it doesn't always mean he no longer wants you?
And why do you put us down and call us jerks for not "showing our emotions" and doing other things that come so naturally to you? Some guys feel degraded by having to apologize for that. Don't you get that?
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well my ex b.f stoppped calling me and he tried to get with someone else(who i must admit didnt want him :D) but any ways i like getting attention and being the center of it.and also,we get used it and when it mysteriuosly stops,that makes us wonder...
because she's right, right?
i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and i have never thought that. i think it would be nice if we were to pay the same attention to each other like when we first went out but you cant. Life goes on and you get used to each other. i think some women feel taken for granted by men though which is why they feel like that. i have never made my boyfriend feel bad about not showing his emotions.
So, once a man "has" us that means we are no longer important and we have to get used to being ignored?
We do get it, but it's hard to except. Women like attention, love, and affection. Some women are insecure with themselves and right away assume that their man is cheating. All women want is to be loved and cared for like you guys.
Because we do want affection and we like/love you alot so why don't you show alot of affection back so we don't have to think you guys are just using us for sex?
Yeah I Totally Understand What You Are Saying
As The Rule Goes... Never Assume,As You Make An *** out of U and ME
I GUESS ITS BECAUSE WE R BEIN OPEN WITH U EXPRESSIN OUR FEELIN...BUT YEP U HOLD BACK AND ACT AS IF WE AREN'T REALLY INTERESTED...WE ONLY CALL U NAMES BECAUSE WE WANT U TO BE OPEN WITH THE WAY U FEEL....CAUSE WE DONT WANT TO FEEL STUPID EXPRESSIN OUR FEELINGS AND THOUGHTS....TO ONE ONLY FEEDBACK IS OK.....
Because a guy is not cheating and is interested...when the compliments come.
yeah, that's why I don't apologize for it --- I hear ya but it's all good
your are right that initially people involved show affection and their love more but gradually they start focusing on other things also but its also important to show your love and care even when u are settled by spending little quality time together because thats not only love which makes us strengthened so its necessary to express our love by our actions, doing small things together otherwise life gets dull, and people feel ignored and even they can feel taken for granted..... and why dont u want to show your emotions is it just bcoz you r man & if shows emotion u may feel vulnerable??? thats not a right thing to do, let your woman know how u r feeling.... even it'll make u feel better and relaxed becoz when we show our emotions and our fears to our loved one we feel relaxed and bonded and even secured.... so please dont take it in a negative way, rather appreciate your woman for becoming curious about u, your life, your feelings, your emotions..... because she loves you and want u happy thats a way she is expressing her love for you...
you will have to be tactful to handle your work pressure so that it could not affect your personal life....
The only reason not to compliment your wife is if she is the nagging and bossy type! Most people that have a good stay together marriage always compliment each other! Those that don't do that there marriage falls apart. They suspect each other of cheating! Anyone that can't show some emotion isn't caring! I know you're afraid that you'd look like a sissy if you should emotions.. some guys like my brother thought that way result he lost his wife and his house too! He did get to keep the motorbike He ment to give to his wife as a present! He is a motorcycle mechanic! Every time I visit my friends Jack and Olive I hear them complimenting each other or thanking for this or that! But there is a couple in Salmon Arm and they are insulting each other.. One is thinking of divorcing! It's up to you compliments are the glue that holds a marriage to gather never ever stop them unless you want to get out of the marriage! It goes both ways your wife should be complimenting you. If she nags and never compliments get out of it.. run away!
If when you meet her you were a gentleman and would open the car door, compliment her and was were attentive and all of a sudden to you stop doing these things it would be confusing to your lady. No one (man or woman) would want to feel like they were being taken for granted.
What if she stopped doing the things that she would normal do for you that you were use to? How would you feel? If she stop being attentive and complementing you.
I would not assume that you were cheating on me because you stopped complementing me but i would worry that may be there might be some thing in the relationship we may be need work on to spice things up.
If you dont want women to assume that, then just compliment her. It doesnt take long to tell someone they look nice, or are looking pretty today.
Frankly, if you dont have enough time to say a few words, then maybe you should make some.
Also, not all women are able to show their emotions easily, and Ive known some men talking about women not showing their emotions easily.
I think men should just stop feeling sorry for themselves, thinking that they get all the bad things from women.