Question: Please help. My two friends are stolen!?
I'm in middle school and I sit with these two girls who were really nice. We started to talk together a little. I wouldn't call them friends but we were more like acquaintances- people who I talk to every now and then. I actually ENJOYED myself at school a little more since I don't have that many friends at school. They were funny and amusing. Then after a week or so, there came this new girl- rather a little plump-ish( I know her name, I'm not going to say it though). I didn't like that girl from the start. We had a few fights. So there she was, sitting with me and my other two friends. I didn't think they would pay too much attention to her but then it started. I forgot what happened but the other two girls started to talk to the plump girl and then I got left out of the conversation. After a while, the plump girl started giving me these dirty looks as if to say 'OMG, what the hell?' If I said something. Now I'm getting nearly totally left out. The plump girl started to say all these weird things to them and they just laughed. If I said that to them, she'd give me that weird stare again and say that wouldn't be nice, including the other two girls. Now all of them are starting to get mean. Whenever I tried to join in a conversation, one of them would say to stop listening to their conversation, kind of meanly. And now, I'm really pissed at the plump girl and I started to be rather mean to her, like she's doing to me. And now, THEIR saying if I don't like them, I should go sit some where else. But the problem is, I do like them. I just don't like the other girl.It's getting worse! I think the plump girl is inviting one of the other girls to her party, like, right in front of my face! The plump girl and the other two, have groups together and I get left out, even if I stare at my 'used-to-be-friend' as if to say, partner? Please help! What should I do? I don't really want to leave the table because I don't really know the other people as well, sitting at the other tables.
First off, you crack me up lol plump girl...bahaha
Anyways...sounds to me that you need to make new friends. Doesn't matter if they are popular or not they are still people and I'm sure you would be content with anyone to talk to. You will learn as you get older that it is a huge waste of time to try to fit in with everyone else. You have to learn to just be yourself and to let the small stuff roll off. Once you are comfortable with yourself and learn who you are you will be happy. You have to have the attitude, "I don't care what anybody thinks about me" , without being mean to anybody and you will be happy. These things all come with maturity.
well, i think your friends were not stolen still.. i think this plum girl you are talking about is kinda "Evil" with the devil's smile... (well, that's pretty much what i picture :P ) anyways, if you really want them.. then yo should make a commitment and a sacrifice. since your two friends are so close to that P girl and not you.. obviously they likes so many things on her which they don't see on you.. you have to figure what those are.. and also.. you have to show them and the P girl that you are totally ok with whatever the situation going on and even they don't talk to you.. you absolutely won't give damn about them the way they treat you.. show them you are strong and unique.. then they will come faster you for sure.. people like to step over the weak ones and as long as you fight with that P girl.. you will be seen so pathetic and total looser.. so, here after.. just chill your self and don't be upset or be jealous.. be nice to them and the P girl (doesn't matter she hates you back) then your good to them will manifest into a reality and they will come after you.. it's ok if they don't call you to hangout with them or or go party..
And one more thing.. you can still make other friends and be nice to everyone and talk with them and smile.. they might not give you the same feed back but it's ok.. at least you are not one them :)
this for your own good till you will win and they will loose.. be cunning and be smart.. :)
think about it and good luck :D
p:s - there is a saying "if you can't fight them.. just join them "
Sorry to say this but those friends are followers in other words fraud ignore them and get new freinds who care about you and dont just stop being your freind just cuz someone else tells them too