Question: My fiance and i both want to enlist in the Airforce, Will us getting married effect anything?
like: pay, where we get stationed, etc...
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Military marriages NEVER work out. I'll see you back on here in 8 months crying on what to do.
Dont you ever read these blogs here and on the Military blog?
well you are not married yet and when you go to enlist and talk to a recruiter and when and if you pass the ASVAB and medical side of it, it will be different for both of you, you might get lucky and get the same job classification and you might get lucky to leave together to go to basic, but you will not be able to see, touch or speak to each other in basic and then if you are lucky enough to get into the school after basic you again will not be able to fraternized with each other and then if you are lucky enough to get stationed at the same place no guarantee you will be in the same company,, if you read this than it's a WISH LIST because it will never happen, even if you are married and you joined together, maybe in the end you might get same duty station but either way you will be separated at least through basic and AIT..with both of you in the military lets say it will not affect your pay because you are the same rank.. so anyway have fun with it my suggestion is one joins and the other stays home and raises the kids and then latter on join
If you get married, both of you will be paid the same amount of money; as long as you are both the same rank. As far as any allowances go, more than likely, you both will be paid the same amount for all allowances; except for the housing allowance for whatever your ranks are. I believe the housing allowance will be split in half, equally between you; unless you both agree to choose the whole housing allowance to go to just one spouse. The only thing will be that you can not be in the same platoon, even if you are both in the same company. The military has a rule that spouses can not work together in the same platoon; and that is in case one of the spouses should become a supervisor before the other one does. In other words, if you get promoted to sergeant before your spouse does; then your spouse can not work for you as a subordinate; because that could lead to problems, from the other soldiers accusing you, of not demanding equal work from your spouse, that you would ask of the other soldiers. If you both are true to each other and share a joint bank account, you can be married and have a much better life; with more money together, than the average single soldier. I suggest than after you are married, that you enjoy several years of wedded bliss together (even after your honeymoon is over); and not begin having any children for about, anywhere from, 8 to 15 years. Enjoy each other and get your future home and cars paid off before you have any children. I would start with insuring that you both buy a car apiece and pay them both off before purchasing a home together; insuring that one of you buy a pick-up truck for transporting personal items. If you can get into on post housing, I would do that for some years, too, in order to make the decision as to where you want to live after your time in the military. Believe it or not, a good Christian man and wife, in the military; can live really good lives; as long as they do not listen to other people, remain true to their spouses, and share their pay between each other equally. When, the 2 of you, share your pay checks and talk lovingly about any future purchases you may make, before spending that money, you should make good sound decisions that will keep you well off financially.....especially when your fellow soldiers or civilians are in a financial crisis.
Wow it is a bad time to do that! havent you been paying attention at whats been going on. Our military has been corporatized. Meaning they are a corporation for a profit only. Bad Idea! Cant say nobody told you so.
Definitely. If you are not married then they could care less about your relationship. They could send him to Guam and you to Germany. If you want even a chance of being stationed together, get married before you talk to the recruiter.
Once you are married you will find you will have to prioritize what you want.
Is living together more important than having a job you like?
For example, Lets say the only assignment where you both can go has one of you doing truck mechanics and the other being a cook. Lets say neither job appeals to either of you but it is take those jobs or you do not get to live together.
What you may find better is "leap frogging." One of you joins the service, the other is a dependent. Now this seems backwards but it works best this way. The GIRL joins the service and supports the family. The dependent husband goes to school and keeps the house. In the four years of her first tour he should be able to knock out two years of college. After four years, you trade places. She gets out and has the GI BILL so can take some good courses, the guy joins the USAF and supports the family. She should be able to knock out two years of college while he is in the service. Then after that four years he gets out and he has the GI BILL too. Now both of you got two years of college done and you both got the GI BILL. You both can be full time students and both get your degrees. And the fun part, the one that graduates first gets to go back into the USAF as an officer!! Then you start having babies.