Question: Maddie's question got me thinking, men, how would you respond to this?
Since I was around twelve I've known my attitude towards having children. I plan on having myself sterilised so I am unable to have children, then once I am married my husband and I will adopt children from less fortunate backgrounds.
Would you be happy marrying a woman who is baron by choice?
Your attitude might change as you get older. Getting sterilised would be a massive decision to make, once you've done it, there's no going back. Wouldn't just using contraception be safer just in case you changed your mind and wanted to have a child of your own?
I think id have a stronger connection to a child that has half of my genes rather than a child from halfway around the world.
Id use adoption as a last choice if the woman wasnt able to have baby through no fault of her own rather than using adoption because the woman didnt want to have a child.
I dont think i could marry someone like that, no offence
You know, just based on upbringing.. I've feared having kids. For awhile I've detested children. But for some reason children are drawn to me. That reality in itself frightens me.. but I think possibly at some point I might want one kid. Just one. You have to be with the right person. I think I am with someone that makes me want to have a kid, because they are great.. great with kids too. I just don't want to physically give birth to one. For vanity purposes. I think as I get to know myself more, I realize that I am not afraid of having kids, because I find that I am not up to par, but it's simple because I fear being like certain people. And I don't want my child growing up a certain way.
Absolutely not.Its a stupid thing to do really , there is a reason why they call it a blood relation and the bond between a Father and a Mother and a Child.
Why can't you have your own children and then adopt poor children.?
There is a connection between a Father and Mother and their own child, it can't be replaced by anything.
'baron'? We appear to have progressed from infertility to weird medieval role play...
Realistically, you know that you'll have to be fortunate enough to meet somebody who either shares/agrees with your ideas - most likely a man who already has children from a previous relationship and is fine with the idea of having no more of his own, or who never wanted any (which wouldn't make him brilliant father material now would it?). Alternatively, he would either have to be a jaffa or miraculously hold exactly the same viewpoint as you do, and I'm guessing that your philosophy isn't held by many men - you'll simply be getting somebody to go along with you, I reckon, rather than fervently agree with your stance.
Additionally, what makes you believe that your current philosophy, despite it spanning a decade (?) or so will be the one you hold by the time you are ready to raise a family?
Yes I would mind, it's all about the family legacy innit
But you don't have to be sterilised to do that thing you want to do, still a chance that you may regret doing it some day in the future and when that day comes...
This kind of act by a woman is coward and self-centered.
If they choose to selfish, they shouldn't destroy another man's life just to please themselves.
There is a simple solution.
That is different, you are not taking life, you are merely stunting the POTENTIAL for life.
But I want children. Not now, but someday... So, I am not sure. She would need to be honest with me from the start.
no want a son not adopted to continue my family legacy wouldnt be the same wouldnt see yourself in the child and the bonding of the family no way but good luck nothing against it
I wouldn't mind. Adopting kids might be a better idea these days with overpopulation soaring.
No offence, but no I wouldn't want that...
Plus, what if you think you're so sure about this decision, then you decide you want kids of your own...
No harm in leaving your options open..
I want to have my own children because I'll naturally love them more than I would if I adopted a child.
I would prefer a child whom i was related to by genes.
would never consider such a woman.
No I could not do it nothing against anyone who makes that choice but it is not one for me
that is seriously odd, u would regret doing that