Question: Im 13 Years Old, My Boyfriend Is 15 Years Old In October, We Live Far Away And I Have Some Questions!?
Hi, I'm Jane. I Live in a place called Gloucester, Gloucestershire and My Boyfriend lives in Uxbridge, London, which is 2 hours Away on a train. I'm 13 (Birthday: April 8th), he's 15 in October. Basically we met on holiday, and we fell in love, now yes im 13 and yes I understand what Love means. If you were there you'd understand. Anyway that's not the point. He wants to come down and see me, and his parents know and trust mine, but she says its too far away and he has to go with his Grampy [Because she and his dad work]. My parents wont let me unless I go with my mum, and she's busy a lot with work too! My dad will never take me to london to see a boy, if you knew him you'd know he wouldn't and my mum says he wont anyway. Here's the Questions:
1) Is 13 and 15 a big age gap? Is it too much? (I just want peoples opinions)
2) How can we get one of our parents to let us go, is there any way around it, got any ideas on other ways to try and convince his or my parents.
The two of you are still very young, i hope you are just friends. I do not find a problem with you going to meet a boy/male friend, but since you are not 18 yet, you should be accompanied by an adult
Jane, it's not that the age gap is too big, it's not. It's the fact you are 13, and that has little to do with your guy's age, though 15 suggests he is likely well into puberty, and that would mean he is fertile. It really doesn't matter that you have no intent for sex, but believe me when I say Society is concerned. Here's what you have going for you...a boy living 2 hours away by train, and you not old enough to travel alone. Frankly, he has a better chance at parental approval for a Saturday ride to visit you and the two of you spend time around your parents. Perhaps a one time deal will give them confidence he is not a threat to their precious girl. That's the plan, now go do it.
I can only answer the first question for you. No, it's not a huge gap. I know when your a teen it seems huge, heck even a one year gap difference would seem huge, but really it isn't! You're fine in that area. I think the only thing that'll make that difference seem really huge is that he might seem ready to have sex before you, but if you guys are really in love then he'll wait 'til the both of you are ready.
For the second question, The only thing I would suggest is to gain their trust. That's all I can think of sorry.
Hope I helped a little. Best of luck to you :)
Think about cougars, and people like Hugh Hefner. Also, what about parents, surely they have some age gap. It's fine. If your that desperate for love, then you'll have to run away, no way parents will let you. At your age though, coming from another thirteen though, if that guy was sixteen people would say he's a pedo