Question: I need advice, all my friends are fake?
Okay so basically within the past month I've completely stopped talking to 98% of my "friends"...they're not good friends at all. A lot of them have kicked me when I was down, they bring a lot of drama into my life, etc. There's just a lot that's not normal that my supposed friends do. I understand people will disappoint you occasionally and that no one's perfect. Too much has happened to list. I don't believe they genuinely care about me either, it's just not the best situation. When I tell outside people what they've done they wonder why I even am friends with them.
So since I've basically just been MIA with this group, I feel really lonely, and I'm starting to get depressed because I hardly go out anymore (no one left to go out with) and I went from having a very active social life to almost nothing.
What would you do? I miss them but I know the friendships are not healthy ones in the end. Maybe I just miss the good times more than the actual people themselves. Please, some straight advice would be great. Thanks.
Try to make new friends who are real and genuine. Real, genuine people are way more fun to hang out with then fake people. Trust me. It may be hard at first but it will get easier. Just talk to people you know who are nice and see where it goes from there. And as you get older you will meet tons of new people anyway so don't worry about these "friends" you have when you're younger, you probably won't remember them 10 years from now.
Its weird because im in the same situation I switched high scjools twice so I have a really big social life , friends, associates, and people that just know my name
I can get into numerous situations explaining how fake my "friends " are and how they ate not good friends but im different I will stay in my house until I meet new people , its bern atleast a year now & thats what ive been doing because if I cant trust you or gind out your talking behing my back I will just fade away
You're exactly right- you miss the action, the fun itself, not the friends.
This is good, because it means you are done with the people who aren't good for you, who are fake and are not your true friends. It also means you're probably ready to go out and look for new friends, ones who will respect you and be there for you. I suggest you FIND things to do. Look for groups that have events at night. Maybe go to summer camp or something. Be social, and friends will come. You're obviously a very social person so you should enjoy trying new things.
It can be daunting, I know. I had a group of friends I hung out with through sophomore year that were the "it" girls, I guess. We all had crazy fun drinking, being crazy, just being stupid teenagers. But these girls were mean. When we weren't drunk, we were fighting and talking behind each other's backs. Eventually I got out of it, and while I missed the fun we had I did NOT miss them and their sh*t at all. It took awhile but I made new friends and we had fun too, albeit a little more sober fun but it was still great.
Good luck! Look for people who care about you and your interests.
>"I feel really lonely, and I'm starting to get depressed because I hardly go out anymore (no one left to go out with) and I went from having a very active social life to almost nothing."
So are these people the last ones on Earth? Do you always have to "go out" with out other people? Don't you enjoy your own company?
Really make it your intention to bring new friends into your life. Feel how good it feels to be around friends that care about your well being. Once you start feeling those feelings these new friends will come into your life.
Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you; be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them.
W. Clement Stone
Thank You for your question
I would go to www.meetup.com and find groups in my area that I am interested in and start going out and meeting new people.
I also suggest seeing a therapist. Therapy helped me enormously. You might be able to find an inexpensive therapist through a school or community center. You need to look at yourself, why you chose those friends in the first place.
Hang out with every person you know BESIDES those people. Find the ones you like and keep talking to them. Soon you'll find some real friends that you can hang out with, even if they aren't you're best friends. At least they're friends! Talk to people that you even thought were goody-two shoes or weird. Once this girl moved to my town and was in my grade. Everyone at school thought she was weird, including me. She went around not caring about how she looked or what she did or if anyone liked her. Soon I found out she had a connection with my family, so my mom made me go hang out with her one day. I found out that she's really cool and now she's one of my best friends.
If they are not true friends, I think it's worth staying in.. I have very few good, and decent, trustworthy friends. but theres a reason I have few, cause they are few and far between.. in the end, if you are more miserable being around them than just staying at home.. then why would you wanna be around them?? Fake friends are easy to find. I'm a 15 year old girl, and I'll be 16 in october. I have a few good friends. and if a "social life" is what you are concerned about, then dont be.. from anything I've learned.. a "social life", only brings trouble..