Question: I have a really low self esteem!?
So I'm 13 and I think I'm ugly. Plain and simple.
I don't take everything people say to heart but I've been told that I'm ugly so many times that it's what I believe now.
My self esteem is so low and I don't know what to do about it! Every time my stepmum yells at me, she says something that makes me feel worse. Every day at school, someone says something to or about me that makes me feel 2 inches tall.
I'm a happy person and I'm loud and I joke around but I hate what is said about me!
I just want to know some ways to make me feel a bit better about myself because I constantly feel the need to wear makeup to hide my face. I really do think I'm ugly and I don't do it for attention. It's what I truly believe :/
Help would be amazing <3!
There's no such thing as ugly people are obviously jealous and are only targeting you because you may look weak to them. You need to start fighting back, next time someone says something mean to you about your appearance just say "shut up and stop judging me, worry about your own life not mine". Make some new friends and if you have trouble with that see the school conselour to help you meet new people. Make the inner changes to yourself like gaining some of your self esteem back, it's the most important. As for outer changes maybe you would want to get a new hair cut, or wear makeup just not alot, you have to admit just about every girl wears makeup. Always remember that it gets better. You are beautiful no matter what anyone says or how anyone treats you. You are young still, once you get thru this you will have many more difficult things to go thru which is very normal, and with your new found confidence tough situations will be much easier to get thru. Just always remember to keep your head up :)
Hater's gonna hate, us potatoes gonna potate.
Keep on being a happy person because that's all you need to attract people. Be the best person you can be. Middle School and High Schooler's can and will be a pain in the ***. All they care about is looking good and going with the flow. The people with insecurities will put you down. When they see you happy, they are envious. "How can that person be so happy? Why not me? Why not me?" so they try to bring you down even more. They are very insecure people. When you leave high school and head for College or University you will meet more mature people. People who care about what you are on the inside, not what you look like. Sure there are going to be a lot of first year ******* trying to act cool but their **** isn't going to last.
What matter's in the real world is PERSONALITY. If it were all on the looks then ugly people would not be making top dollars or be able to go anywhere in life. A year ago I was in High School and now that **** is over. I mean my high school days were great but they didn't start that way. In grade 10 I would let the bullies get to me but then I changed and none of that ever affected me again. Okay maybe it did a little - but i NEVER let it show. So now in the real world, with mature people, I have changed. I used to look at looks too but now I see what is truly important and that is personality.
When we all grow old, even the best of us are crinkly and unattractive. However, personality is something that stays. We will all be ugly, so might as well be an ugly person with a first class personality.
I felt the same when I was your age. Look for something you really like to do; start from there and develop, enhance, improve what you like to do. Have you seen the photos of our holywood stars when they were your age? Practically the face you wont swoon about. Through the years they discovered, improved and experimented to help their otherwise ugly side.
Another thing, don't let other persons statement affect, depress you. Instead, use it as the starting point. If your mum says you have a crooked smile, why, jump start from there. Enhance it, improve and make it your best feature. Sounds corny, but that's how most of my friends and myself managed to be happy during those ugly years.
Try not to be self conscious,btw, almost everyone your age are, the rest just discovered ways to improve themselves earlier by being friendly, discovering there hidden beauty or talents.
Take care, you are God's creation, a diamond deep inside that needs lots of polishing.