Question: I feel like I shouldnt be here anymore.?
So im a freshie (soon to be sophomore) in high school.I recently lost 35 pounds. So now that I have lost all the weight, I want to tone up. So now I go to the gym no less than three times a week and workout twice a day. I eat more now than when on WW (how I lost it) because I have to since im growing and working out so much. But im gaining weight and freaking out. I started toning up at the gym about a week ago and I know that I shouldn't see results yet, but im nervous im just going to gain weight. and recently i feel so stressed out with family problems. I honestly dont know if i can do it anymore. and sometimes i feel like i just dont want to be here anymore. i try so hard to be fit and ive lost so much weight and accomplished so much, but im still chubby. Im 5 5 and weight 129. All in my tummy (my legs are really skinny). Im a runner. I just want to doze off permanently. Idk what to do. Also ive never had a boyfriend and I really want one. And I feel pathetic.
Your not pathetic!! You should feel awesome about losing weight and working out! I am such a lazy butt. If your concerned about gaining muscle weight (it weighs more than fat) then try more cardio, bicycle, jogs, dance, zumba (super fun) or kickboxing! I plan on taking that! Great to lose weight and gain muscle tone!!
Don't forget, working out also builds muscle (which weighs more than fat). You are so young. Don't feel down already when you're just in high school. You're too focused on the negatives that you don't see the positive. YOU LOST 35 LBS. Not many people can even accomplish 5. Plus, you actually WORK OUT. Not many people can even say that they get off the couch. So, just continue what you are doing. Don't give up because you're not getting what you want right now. In the long run, it will be worth it. You'll be healthier and have more energy. And, honey, boyfriends only end up breaking your hearts which leaves you going back to your insecurities. Right now, you can just get a better attitude that YOU CAN DO THIS and when you do find someone who's really worth your attention THEN you can show him your stuff. Just don't become depressed over nothing. You've accomplished a lot, and now you're just at that stage we're you're doubting what you're doing. You just need to overcome that doubt. Stay strong. Just keep it up. JUST KEEP IT UP. FIGHTING!!!!!!!
Awwwww...... ok well first of all calm down and take deep breaths, secondly, relax. I would first like to say, 129 is not that bad, most 5'5'' girls weigh 120-130, so you're normal. Also if you're going to the gym and gaining weight, that typically means that you're gaining muscle, and if you're not gaining muscle than yes it's fat. But if that's the case it just means that you're not eating healthy. Just because you go to the gym and exercise doesn't mean you're healthy. In fact if you're eating unhealthy the gym really isn't going to do that much for you. You must drink 8 cups of water a day, and eat plenty of fruits and veggies.
Ok, next is that you say you're stressed with family issues. Well what you have to do is try very hard to think positively. If you let the stress get to you, of course it's going to effect you. That's why you have to fight it. Stress, believe it or not, can also mess with your weight. So try not to be stressed out. Make the best out of every situation.
Thirdly, do not worry about never having a boyfriend. You're still very young, and you'll have plenty of time for boys. Trust me I forsure understand how it feels to be the only girl without a boyfriend. But girlllllllll you say you're stressed now. Do you really think a boyfriend will help that? At your age boys are very immature, and that will just add to your stress like CRAZY. Your Prince Charming is out there. I promise you that. Just please hang in there and he'll come to you eventually.
Lastly, please do not say that you don't want to live anymore. That would crush your family's heart. Come on fight through this. You're a strong person, and all this won't last forever. You should find some very inspirational songs by your favorite singers and listen to them. That sometimes helps. If you need anything ask for help.
I really hope this helps you. I wish you the best of luck. :)
i know exactly how u feel im going2b in the 8 grade& im 5'7& weigh that much2 but taking ur life isnt the answer trust me u will regret all the things u miss out on in life. just keep working hard& theres always going2b a guy out there4 evry1 u just have2b patient. ur not the only1 who feels exactly the same- youll b alright. hang in there