Question: How can i get him to understand? easy 10 pts!?
i have been seeing a guy for about 2 and a half years. We have been on/off. We both have issues that have caused problems, but we also get into fights abit lately as i want him to say that we are gf/bf/a couple instead he says 'seeing eachother' I believe he does this to keep his options open and it makes me lack trust. We care alot about eachother and when i've said i think we should end it, hes gotten upset and says he can't ever forget someone like me. I really love him but feel like i'm one of many. What can i say to him to really get inside his head that he needs to admit we are together! Or how can i handle this situation to get him to open his eyes that he will lose me if he keeps playing games.?
Actions speak louder than words.
Don't just try to say something to him to get inside his head. Leave him! If he still wants you, he'll come back. Like you said, he gets really upset. But it's unfair that he gets his way and you're just left questioning his truth. You sound like you've tried to tell him a million times how you feel. He doesn't sound like he cares enough. I understand that you love him. I love someone, too, who I've now got to accept I've got to live without.
Just pack your things and tell him you're leaving. If he gets mad or upset, just say that you're leaving him until he can make a decision and sort his life out. You've been "seeing" eachother for 21/2 years! That's not "seeing"! That's a relationship.
But, you need to leave him for a little while, at least, so that he understands you're serious. If he makes his best to get you back, go with him. But if he hasn't changed, leave him for good and don't go back to him. You gave him a chance and he blew, he doesn't deserve another one.
And just remember that actions speak louder than words.
Just tell him how you feel; tell him that he is making you feel insecure about the relationship and it is unnecessary. You need to be quite firm and straight to then point with men (as my partner has told me) because beating around the bush will get you nowhere. Good luck!