Question: How can I fix this Relationship?
This is my Relationship and what it in-tails.
My GF has a problem aka deformed condition and is in a wheel chair. The problem I have is there is several things I've noticed about her that aren't normal i.e her Concept of what a relationship is to her.
1.She seems to to think it's ok to hardly see me for long periods of time and It's always me thats asking to meet up.
2.She also likes the fact she has a BF and says to eveyone which is anoying but it's just a fact to her when I'm more her partner I think she dosn't care but when I see her Its like she's acting she dose.
3. Everyone="Carers" who she tells and she has tons of them which I'm friends with but there is no way I feel I can't speak to her about any sort of problem I have with her because if I upset her I don't want to get made to look bad and because all the carers are women I can't be bothered being called a d*ck head and all guys are useless and I've to take it becuase the carers will feed her head with crap as they usealy do and sometimes they talk for her which is anoying
I hope I don't sound bad I don't intend to do so but my GF wants children and when thinking about everything encludeing marrige some would think it's lol but I'm not really wanting to have children because they might have the same problems and I will be doing everything mostley i.e changing and stuff cause shes in a wheel chair and the thing I hate most is that she uses black mail to say "How come your find it embarrsing to kiss or hold hands in public it's not my fault i'm in a wheel chair" when the truth is I'm self concious about the lovey dovey stuff and find it embarrising in public. I just don't know what to do or if solveing this would be to dump her but I've met her mum and tons of friends and because of the comunity I live in I bumb into them most of the time and If I dumb her I don;t want to get made to feel I'm the one in the wrong. I think there's no way out. Sometimes it's worth it it feels then other time's it's not.
If anyone has any suggestions plz help.
ps. Sorry my grammar and punctuation skills might not be good but I hope you can understand.
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U do not deserve to be unhappy. Talk to ur gf and tell her how you feel and if she continues to blackmail u then talk to her mother but if nothing comes out of it then leave and don't feel bad about it. she does not seem to be a nice woman and it almost seems like she is taking advantage of u because from what ur saying it seems like she does not appreciate you and neither you nor anyone deserves to be treated like this. I would suggest you not have children with this woman if she continues like this becomes no child deserves to be raised in an unhappy environment.
make her break up with you, and you are clean free. Just be annoying and never leave her alone. and eventually she will get feed up and tell you its not working.
its bad u feel dat way about her n just coz shes in a wheelchair dnt mean da kids r gono b da same but staying wid her wen u know how u feel is even worser so break up wid her/
omg this kinda sounds like me an my BF...... i dont wanna see ma BF at times kuz i dont wanna feel crowded by him but one day we had a talk and he told me that how u feels but he said in a calm way to make sure iam hearing it as "i care for and will be here an i dont want to leave you but this is how i feel. (then u explain how u feel)"lol....
now we only see each other about 2 or 3 times a week an iam more exited to see him those few times.
she proly tells her friends she has a BF kuz she happy to be with you an has no problem letting people know.....i kinda do that to but its only because iam NOT ashamed of being with him an iam happy with...
not wanting to upset her you just gotta think about what things you want to keep to yourself and what you feel is a must know for her
if you dont want kids i say just dont bring it up in conversations. holding hands and kissing those are just the simple things that can brightin up a girls day... take some time to think about it honestly they are simple things you can get over just takes time
If you don't love her don't stay with her. If you do love her stay. Forget about the wheelchair for a second.