Question: How can I get rid of my desires for my daughter's boyfriend?
My daughter is 18 and she's dating a guy at 24. He is a really sweet guy and absolutely gorgeous. I am 36 and have been separated from my husband for over two years, and I haven't slept with a man since a stupid, last night with my husband 18 months ago. He's found someone else; I felt like I owed it to my daughter to stand by her and not have her see another man come by and replace dad.
For the past few months I've felt a palpable tension between my daughter's boyfriend and I. There's been some flirting but I've had to stop it before it became obvious flirting, and I try to erase these thoughts from my head. I've even had dreams about him.
Recently, he and my daughter haven't been so close, and he's been flirting with me a lot more. I will always try to be supportive to her, and when I asked her what was wrong, she said that he was pushing for a**l, but my daughter wasn't willing to do it. I told her that she doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to and that if he persists, she should break off their relationship.
Here is where I feel terribly guilty, and like it's dangerous for her to split up with him. The thought of him being single and the temptation to sleep with him is almost unbearable. Particularly given the fact that they're rowing over a**l, which I absolutely love. The thought of him all hard, filling me up and being able to indulge in his lusty fantasy with me, drives me crazy with desire.
I can't handle the guilt that I'm feeling, and I don't know if I fully trust myself. I know that the only way to get through this is to somehow kill the thoughts of my daughter's boyfriend. Has anyone been able to erase thoughts of a man and if so how did they do it? Thanks so much. x
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umm tell your daughter or give her permission to go hang out at his place as much as she want's. that way you won't see him. if your that type of mom who doesn't want her daughter sexually active then you should tell her to not be sexually active before giving her permission to spend most of her free time with him.
umm if you don't want your daughter out of the house then you leave the house. your still young and most likely beautiful if you have a 18 yr old wanting you. go to the gym get a guys attention. you don't have to be with him but i always find flirting with other guys makes me forget about other guys. go get your nails done. just do anything that involves yourself looking great and attracting other guys to take your mind off of your daughter's bf.
I THINK YOU SHOULD CONTROL YOURSELF.YOU DON'T REALLY WANT GIVE A PAIN TO YOU DAUGHTER.DO YOU LOVE YOUR DAUGHTER?YOU'RE AN ADULT WOMAN.
You need to stop being ridiculous and grow up.
Is it more important for you to get your leg over some Toyboy or maintaining a good relationship with your daughter. He probably likes the idea of bedding an older Woman and has probably joked about it with his friends.
You step over that line and your Daughter will never ever forgive you regardless of whether her relationship with this man is serious or not. Think about the bigger picture and the future. Do you want your daughter to cut you out of her life and never to have any contact with future Grandchildren?
This lust for a 24 year old is all it will ever be, he would be unlikely to want to pursue anything more than casual sex with you and once he's no longer on the scene, you'll have to come to terms with what a terrible, selfish Mother you have been. Go out and get a bunk up with some other Man to extinguish the flames in your loins!
Damn!
You get a guy your own age or older, and snap out of it! She's your daughter, wouldn't want to loose her over some fantasy..
Just think that to yourself
Give yourself a slap women are you actually being serious asking this question?
She's your daughter ! How can you even contemplate this happenning !
Take your fantasys somewhere else, Ann Summers might have something you need
Whatever you do do not cross that line !!!