Question: Dating someone outside my race is causing a problem..?
Its kind of long but I'd really appreciate the advice..
I'm european/asian and I'm Dating this really amazing and loving guy, who is brown. We started dating almost 2 years ago when I was 16. My parents have never controlled me or prevented me from doing what makes me happy and especially when it came to who to love. But they werre shocked to know I was dating a brown guy when I first told them but they never stopped me and said I should do whatever makes me happy. Howeveer they think that since I was only 16, that most likely this wasn't a very serious relatiobship and so they kinda shrugged it off.
Its been two years now and I really fell in love w the guy and we're really serious and commited even though this is both our first relationship (he's 19). If things continue as they are now I think we might even end up getting married after uni.
My parents are still weirded out by the idea of us getting married some day but they like him and they know he's so good to me. The problem is they're actually embarrassed to tell my relatives/their friends about him because of his background (however all my relatives live in another country). My parents said that they understand but other ppl might not and that's why theyree not telling them.
Now that kinda scared me as to how I will be able to live my life with him.. I mean I love him so much and he's SO good to me but if I ever marry him.. I'll have the most difficult time and it'll be difficult for my parents too.. This is making me think differently about the relationship and its preventing me from wanting it 100% and I'm confused as to whether to do. I don't want this to affect my relationship with him..
Any advice as to what to do? :/
Oh and please no comments about "you're only 18 you'll meet other ppl". I know that. But I KNOW if things continue to be as stable as they are, I will end up married to him.
Thanks for your feedback and time!
love is love
don't worry about other people. I know having your family/relatives' support is important, but at the same time, it's the 21st century. Don't worry about it.
Okay well I've had this problem too! But you know what it doesn't matter what everyone else thinks because you love him! And my parents were shocked when I brought home a african american guy home (I'm a white american). But they got used to it and theydealt with it. So don't worry and don't give up just because it might be weird for some people. And once you leave home people aren't going to care about race later on in life.
Stay with him!! :) hope I helped