Question: Can not get over ex of 8 Years- Yes I know that is Long- That is Why I asked this!!!!?
It has been 8 Years and I cannot as yet get over my ex- Genuine replies only- I live in Australia where white people are mostly accepted- Long story short- My Father was white my Mother was Black and I grew up with my Father. My Dad hated me because I was part Black- I know crazy Huh?! And I suffered so much abuse from racism here in Australia growing up- Anyhow- Not fitting in with anyone and growing up poor my ex who turned out to be a sleaze loved me for being pretty and genuinely loved me for my personality- That sounds contradictory- Sorry he liked me for both reasons- Moving on- I think this is why I was so hung up on him because none of my old friends who I have since got rid of, thought I was worthwhile having around cause I was poor and Black till they knew I had a white semi-wealthy partner- Which I didn't plan it's only cause I felt he liked me unconditionally at the time- Anyhow he has just had a baby with his wife, and my old friends tell me he's still in love with me- Which is not the issue though what is, is- I was wondering do you think the reason of me being hung up on him might be due to the fact of me wanting to fit in socially with a white boyfriend at the time!!- This wasn't consciously why I dated him at the time though I was widely accepted by friends and family after I started dating him- I know they are not true friends and family that is why I got rid of all of them and I am moving to America as they all "Fondly" call me blacky, And i know I was supposed to stick up for myself- Whatever!!! When I was with him I'm unconsciously thinking now when I dated him everyone wanted to accept me and liked me- and this is now the reason I can't get over him. After we broke up I didn't have the same attention- I know I have a lot of issues!!!!- though think about it, it took me a lot of courage to write on here!!!!! And anyway I am so upset he is married and found out he just had a baby to his white partner, who I am not judging at all about her colour she seems very lovely- I mention that because his mum didn't want us together because I was poor and 1/2 black- And wanted him to have a white- Girlfriend- I get there's issues there!!! I know he is an adult that needed to and did make up his own mind!!!- I don't mean to sound like a raving woman even though I do right now- It's just I am getting my degree, getting experience in the workforce- And then moving to a new country that has more racial tolerance- America. So do you think I'm hung up on him for the aforementioned- ie I was more accepted with people with a white partner- even though this is not why I consciously picked him at the time for -At All!!!!! He chased me for 2 years and I said no- Then finally gave in and we dated for 4 years!! Cause I am so upset he has had a baby and moved on!!! Devastated!!!
Relation Questions:
Answer:
Believe in yourself. Be proud of yourself.
Get professional counseling.