Question: Am I socially awkward?
I'm 16 and in grade 11 and not sure if socially awkward...
Right now in high school I do have a circle of friends, but they are kind of nerdy (I am not) and are a bit awkward. Hanging out with these types of people have led other kids at my school to place me in that category, which leads to me not going to parties.
I can hold a conversation with someone quite well if we have a good topic, but I would never really just walk up to a stranger and start talking. I have really good intuition on peoples feelings and easily pick up social signals.
Although I like talking and being socialable I do like to be alone for a few hours sometimes an entire day without talking to someone, it helps me relax.
Before high school I went to a private school and had friends who I was close with and still today (we hang out together and party) but most of us go to different schools (when I came to High school,mostly everyone else knew each other from their middle schools while I didn't know anyone... The nerdier group of people seemed more open accepting an outsider, like themselves.
I'm really looking forward to university where everyone will be looking to meet new people. I don't really intend to keep in touch with people from highschool, and want to have a fresh start.
You said "I don't really intend to keep in touch with people from highschool, and want to have a fresh start." So I wouldn't worry about these kids in High School. The nerdy kids when I went to High School were also considered socially awkward. No one other than "nerdy" kids would talk to them. Well guess what, the so called cool kids now have to pay these nerdy kids to talk to them because most of the nerdy kids became doctors, lawyers and Psychiatrists. Do not knock yourself for being intelligent. These "cool" kids are just a small blip in your long life. Most of them wont even be in your life when you are a successful adult. Be proud of who you are always. I know its hard to be a new person in a school when everyone else has roots there. You will make life long friends. Best of Luck and keep your head held high!
yes you are, you are an alien.
Nah, you're not socially awkward! You actually sound exactly like me!!
I moved and changed schools while in high school and had the same problem, but luckily I was still reasonably close to my old suburb so I got to keep hanging out with my old friends like once a month, but I found it hard to make friends with the kids that actually went out and had fun at my new school cause they already had their little tight groups and the 'nerdier' kids were just like yeah whatever.. I used to just wait and wait and wait for the weekends I got to go see my old friends!
I kinda feel like I wasted my last few years at high school cause I didn't get out much with the other kids at my school until right before graduation where I pretty much just went I don't care if I'm alone I'm still going to all the parties! haha so try your hardest to get an invite to one of the parties that everyone else is going to and be friends with the people who meet your interests more just so you don't feel like you missed out on lots! not the best feeling!
I started university this year and its soooo good! Since I'm living on campus everyone else who lives in the same college thingo is really open to meeting to people and making new friends! I've made lots of new friends and am always out having fun woo (not great for my study though haha)
Have fun :)
You are not awkward. I think your behavior is normal. It's very difficult to try to immerse in a group of new people and expect them to treat you in the same way your close friends do. I think you should just wait for the university. I did that. In fact, in high school I was kind of a nerd and bullied for being so unfriendly and lonely, but when I went to the university I was one of the best and most popular students in my class and in my program. I like the song CHANGE YOUR MIND. That's what I did. If you wanna make a lot of friends or make very good ones then try to change those negative things you think keep people away. Byee!!! I wish I were 16 and could start my univerisity again! hahaha
Yea, ur a dork. But that's all good. I was kinda dorky in high school. And college is much better.
And btw, wait and see later on in ur life, look back at the popular kids and see where they have gone, hahahha!! Omg you'll laugh ur @$$ off. They never amount to anything.
So keep ur smarts about u, and college kids mostly respect intellect.